Help! How do I write my wedding vows?
(Spoiler: you don’t need to be a poet - just be real)
Writing your own wedding vows can feel like a lot. One minute you're brimming with emotion, the next you're staring at a blinking cursor thinking, “Do I start with a joke? A memory? A declaration of undying love?”
The good news? You don’t need to channel your inner Shakespeare. You just need to be you. Here’s how to get started without spiralling.
📝 Step 1: Blank page, open heart
Grab a piece of paper (or your Notes app) and start writing anything that comes to mind about your partner and your relationship. Don’t worry about making it perfect, just let it all spill out. The sweet stuff. The silly stuff. The "I love how you always steal my last chips" kind of stuff.
💭 Step 2: Take a stroll down memory lane
Think about the moments that really matter - the laughs, the challenges, the weird traditions you’ve picked up. What makes your love yours? What do you admire most about your partner? These reflections will help shape your vows into something genuine and personal.
💍 Step 3: Make some actual promises
This is the moment to say what you’re promising in your life together, big or small. From “I promise to always have your back” to “I promise to not leave my wet towel on the floor,” these little commitments are what vows are all about. Bonus points for honesty and heart.
😅 Step 4: Be yourself (yes, really)
There’s no one way to write vows. Want to make people laugh? Go for it. Want to keep it simple and sincere? Also great. Whether you’re sentimental, sarcastic, poetic or to the point, your vows should sound like you, not a wedding Pinterest board.
✂️ Step 5: Keep it short and sweet
You don’t need to write a novel. A minute or two of heartfelt words can be powerful and perfect. Aim for clarity over complexity, and don't stress about trying to impress, if it's real, it'll land.
🤯 Step 6: Stuck? Ask for help
If your brain’s gone blank or you're spiralling, don’t panic. I help couples write their vows all the time (it’s part of the gig!). Sometimes a quick chat is all it takes to unlock the gold.
And if you’re tech-savvy (or just a bit curious), I’ve even put together a guide on how to use AI to help craft your vows. Yep, techy love is a thing now.
Writing your vows is a chance to say, in your own words, why you’re choosing this person for life. So don’t overthink it, just speak from the heart and trust that’s more than enough.
Good luck!