In a world of Pinterest boards, Instagram reels, and #weddinginspo overload, it’s no wonder couples can feel like their big day has to be ✨ flawless ✨, picture-perfect, not a single wilted flower or hair out of place.

But here’s the truth: the perfect wedding doesn’t exist.

And you know what, I think that’s kind of great.

Because real weddings, you know, the ones people actually remember – are full of personality, laughter, unexpected moments and a whole lot of love. Not perfection.

Things Might Go Wrong (And That’s Okay)

Maybe someone forgets the rings (yes, it’s happened). Maybe it rains. Maybe Aunt June gets a little too excited at the open bar and takes over the dancefloor during your first dance.

But the thing to remember is this: these little things aren’t mistakes. They’re the moments that make your wedding yours. They’re the stories you’ll be telling for years to come.

so, How do you Plan for a Wedding That Feels Right?

Of course, you don’t just wing it and hope for the best. You can still plan a beautiful, meaningful celebration without driving yourself around the bend trying to control every detail. Here are a few ways to stay grounded while planning your big day:

1. Write It All Down (Your Brain Will Thank You)

Whether you’re a digital list lover or an old-school notebook type, getting things out of your head and onto a list will save you a lot of late-night overthinking. Break things down into bite-sized tasks, and don’t try to tackle everything at once.

2. Focus on the Feel, Not Just the Look

Ask yourself: how do you want your day to feel? Warm? Relaxed? Joyful? Intimate? Once you’ve got that vibe in mind, you can build everything around it – the music, the ceremony style, the venue, even the outfits. The look will follow.

3. Surround Yourself With People Who’ve Got Your Back

That means vendors you trust, a crew who’ll step in when needed, and maybe even a celebrant who feels more like a mate than a stranger (hi, it’s me). Choose people who will roll with the punches and support you when the unexpected pops up.

4. Let Go of the ‘Shoulds’

You don’t have to have a cake. You don’t have to wear white. You don’t have to do the bouquet toss or cut the guest list down to a number that makes someone else happy. Do what feels right for you.

5. Have a Plan B (and Maybe C)

Especially if your ceremony’s outdoors, it’s worth thinking through a few contingency options. Rain plan? Sorted. Wet shoes? Bring backups. Just having a safety net can take a load off your mind.

At the end of the day, weddings aren’t performances – they’re celebrations. And the more you can let go of the pressure to make everything perfect, the more space you’ll have to actually enjoy it.

So breathe. Laugh. Embrace the chaos if it comes.

Because a wedding that’s full of heart will always outshine one that’s simply picture-perfect.

The Perfect Wedding Doesn’t Exist (And That’s a Good Thing)